I was sitting in the beauty parlor today. Ila was painting in the base color so I didnt have any gray hair and I was of course face to face with me....glop all over and my hair hanging down. I am 60 and it was a teeming humid day so I had come in with big hair. (I am a human baromoter...so if you want to know how much humidity is in the air just look at my hair. If I look pretty and my hair is calm, there is very little humidy. That was not the case today. I had huge hair. Huge hair whose color was all wrong. So okay Ila was fixing the color. But staring at me I was obsessing over the length. Its long. Trouble is if I am honest with myself only about a third of the hair has made it long. So its getting really scraggily. I took a deep breath and remembered my age. 60. How should my hair be? Shoulder length? I looked at the magazines sitting on the counter in front of me. Vogue looked great. Gwenth Paltrow. She has long hair. And look at Angelina Jolie. Long hair. Jennifer Annistan. Long hair. The models all have long hair. Long long long. And lets face it I wanted long hair. I have been trying to grow it long for ages. Been through times when I thought about getting extensions. I needed long hair. So miraculously all of a sudden my hair started really growing. And I have long hair. I have long hair, I am 60 and it probably looks stupid on me now. So I grabbed more magazines. What do 60 year olds look like? How are they wearing their hair? I couldn't find one 60 year old. And I can't keep trying to look like a 30 year old. I did take some good thoughts from an article in the Times the other day...on how French women age gracefully. It was a great article. I only wish there were more pictures of women over 60. They alluded to older women. And there was a picture of Catherine Denueve. Her hair is shoulder length or shorter. So I vow to go online and look up Julie Christie, Charlotte Rampling, Blythe Danner, Barbara Strysand and Sally Field. And Jill Clayburgh. How are they wearing their hair? They should be my guides. Not Julia Roberts. So that's today's assignment for myself. Getting real. And that even means what I look like.